It escapes no-one's notice that our world seems to be teetering for some time now, maybe for too long. However, although we have the feeling we are inside a room without exit doors, we can see that the room is really full of holes through which we can look outwards and start to get out.

A communicative regression caused by the state of overwhelming grief we feel may be pernicious. We are getting too used to our inner dialogue and we are leaving the active and effective communication with others aside.

We prefer having a cup of coffee with ourselves, creating a real breeding ground to indictments, distortions of the reality and subjectivities, which benefit conflicts with people who accompany us every day and who are unaware of the most of our internal experience and life. Fluent, clear and healthy conversation have been exchanged for a thunderous internal speech which force us to transmit our real thoughts and feelings in a succinct and unfair way by means of suppressions, generalizations, etc

If the NLP and Meta-model of language have been useful since they were discovered, they are even more today. That fantastic tools help coach to start to support many people who suffer this communicative block, causing them limitations, confusions and conflicts with the others.

But, what is the Meta-model of language?

All our thoughts, ideas and own opinions are generated in the so-called Deep Structure. And from here, all this information is transferred to the Surface Structure to turn into verbal or nonverbal communication toward the interlocutor.

During this transition from one structure to the other there is a more or less important slant. We say considerably less than we think. And it is here that the coach uses the Meta-model by means of powerful questions to pass from the Surface Structure to Deep Structure with the aim of clarifying meanings ad identifying limitations, diving in the internal world of pictures, sounds and subjectivities every person has from his/her own experience.

How many times have we said "what a day"? And we really mean is "My stomach hurts, the car is broken and on top of that the car insurance has been charged". In the same way, when we say "I don't like the way he is" we really think "It upsets me the he doesn't let other people talk when we are in group" as an example. These and others usual lacks of information are a source of conflicts and daily misunderstandings with others aside and make both, we and the others, suffer.

The Meta-model of language serve the coach as a spoon to remove and draw off the communicative sand we have deep down and that we need to build roads for a fluent and healthy dialogue with the others.